We’ve all heard of ghosting before, and it’s generally agreed upon that it’s not cool – leaving someone hanging after a date without so much as an explanation.

But sometimes, ghosting might just be necessary – like in these cases shared on Reddit, when women were asked what would make a man “ghostable”. Here are a few of the eye-popping reasons:

“I told him I couldn’t that night, but I was free tomorrow. He asked why. I told him I had a funeral tomorrow morning and just didn’t feel like going out. ‘What time is the funeral?’ he said. ‘I won’t stay too long — please, I really want to see you…'”

“Went out on a coffee date with a guy. He admitted that he placed a GPS tracker in his ex’s car to track her without her knowledge. Immediately no.”

“When they talk about how they treated their exes, children, and employees in a way that demonstrates they are clearly controlling and toxic without realizing it.”

“When they get too intense. Let’s say I’m talking with them for a week, and they’re already telling me I’m the love of their life, the most beautiful women in the world, and that they love me. Those are huge red flags for me.”

“Random, constant calling… I’m at work, dude!!!”

“When they send unsolicited nudes and still have the audacity to ask if I want some of it.”

“Any hint of violent tendencies or general anger management issues. Immediate block, not dealing with that. If I feel threatened, your feelings about being ghosted do not supersede mine of feeling safe.”

I’ve ghosted guys that have had wild road rage while in the car with me. If you scream and curse at the top of your lungs, hit your steering wheel, etc. just because someone didn’t merge fast enough for you, I don’t want to be around you.