The 3 Questions Experts Say to Avoid on a First Date
We’re generally of the thought that there are no SET rules in dating (except to be respectful, legal, and consensual, obvi). But according to some so-called dating experts, there are three surprising questions you shouldn’t ask on a first date if you want to be successful. Via CNBC:
1. What’s your dating history?
It’s tempting to inquire about a person’s last serious relationship or how they’re finding the current dating landscape, but questions like this are, to put it plainly, just not “fun,” Anderson says, something that a first date should be.
“The only category of questions I’d advise singles to avoid outright on early dates is around dating history,” she says. “There’s no need to bring exes into your first dates. Stay present, and focus on the here and now.”
2. This was great! Do you want to go on another date?
Instead of nailing down the details of a second date while still on the first, take some time to think about whether you want to continue to get to know someone, says Grace Lee, a New York City-based dating coach and founder of A Good First Date.
“Planning for the second date is a form of courtship, a form of testing that mutual interest,” she says. “That’s why I like to leave the first date open. I like leaving that planning process in tact. Now, one person has to take a little bit a risk.”
3. Drinks has been fun — should we get dinner now?
It’s generally a good sign if you don’t want the date to end, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t let it, Lee says.
“The problem with the seven-hour first date is you have this false sense of really being intimate without knowing if over time they will be consistent,” she says.
If you both feel a strong connection, you can continue to explore it on subsequent dates.
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