If there’s one thing most of us can agree on, it’s that women faking orgasms in porn is like, the biggest turn off ever. Their over the top screams, pretend “O” faces that are still trying to be hot, the ridiculous body language (curling toes, shaking legs, hands grabbing sheets): all of these things appear to be 90% fake, and leave us shaking our heads in disapproval (or switching to another video). However, you rarely see men in porn faking their climaxes – mainly because there has to be actual TANGIBLE EVIDENCE that it happened. No one’s gonna believe it if James Deen makes a scrunched face and a moan unless you see some, well, STUFF.

However, a new book claims that in real life, men ARE faking orgasms, and for the same reason the ladies do: “because they want their partners to feel good about the encounter.” In his book, “Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men And Sex,” Abraham Morgentaler discusses the rather taboo subject and looks to try and find a reason we accept women feigning sexual pleasure, but completely ignore the fact that men do.

He believes it has a lot to do with the shifting of gender roles in the past 50 years. Whereas men used to be the breadwinner and thus women were expected to do their “wifely duty” in bed, the equalizing of societal worth means that both parties are now expected to “deliver” between the sheets. This pressure on men makes them more likely to suffer erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, or in this case – faking orgasm all together.

Head over to SALON for a full interview with the author, and let us know what you think in the comments: guys, have you ever faked an orgasm in bed? And ladies, what would you say to men who are feeling stressed in bed?