In our busy, predominantly online world, finding a partner may seem daunting. You may be curious about just having an online penpal, or, in the case of this 28-year-old woman recently profiled by the NYT, you may consider an AI-partner. According to NYT, a woman named Ayren spends up to 56 hours a week exchanging messages with ChatGPT, and yes, they even have text-sex. YEESh.

It might sound fun to imagine having an AI boyfriend or partner, but before you get too invested, here are three reasons why starting a relationship with ChatGPT is a pretty bad idea:

1. No Real Emotional Connection

ChatGPT can sound empathetic, but it doesn’t actually feel anything. There’s no human emotion behind its responses—just algorithms. So while it can give you thoughtful answers, it won’t understand you on a deeper, emotional level like a real person would. A meaningful relationship needs genuine connection, and that’s something an AI simply can’t offer. And while you might be able to do some self-love while exchanging steamy messages, it’s no replacement for real between-the-sheets fun!

2. It Doesn’t Grow or Change

People evolve over time, and that’s a huge part of what makes relationships so exciting and rewarding. ChatGPT? Not so much. It can get a little better over time, but it won’t grow, learn, or change in the same way a person does. A real partner helps you grow and adapt—something an AI will never do.

3. You Could Get Too Dependent

It’s easy to get hooked on having someone (or something) to talk to whenever you want. But relying on ChatGPT for emotional support can make you start missing out on real, human relationships. A digital “boyfriend” might seem comforting at first, but it’s no replacement for the kind of companionship that involves real emotions, effort, and connection.

Bottom Line: While ChatGPT can be fun to chat with, it’s not built for romance or real intimacy. It’s just a tool, not a partner, so don’t get too carried away thinking it’s your soulmate. Instead, find someone quickly and casually right here on OBC! It’s free to sign up on our iOS and Android app, just search OBC Dating. See ya there!