With a title like the one above, you might think that we were planning on addressing the common phenomenon of guys getting ladies drunk to convince them to have sex (I suppose there are cases of this happening female on male, but I’ve never heard of it). BUT NO! Today, we’re talking about all the single ladies out there who feel like they have to use booze to “loosen up” or “let down their inhibitions” before going ahead with hook ups or casual sex.

A 2013 study showed that there are many different opinions about casual sex among college-aged women. Some are down, some aren’t, but an overwhelming need for alcohol was common in the women who were DTF.

Why is this? Why is it that guys can go booty huntin’ with little to no alcohol in their systems, but ladies need social lubricant to get their sex on? It’s likely due to one of a few reasons. A) they’re self-conscious about their bodies and need to lose the nervousness before shedding clothes, B) they are judging themselves for wanting to hook up in the first place and need to put their worries aside, or C) they are shy and really like the guy and need some liquid courage.

How would guys respond to this? A) they love your body or we wouldn’t be flirting with you, B) sex is natural and a beautiful part of life and if you want it (and do it safely) there is NOTHING to be ashamed of, and C) we can spend time getting to know each other first if that makes you feel more comfortable!

How do you fix the fear? Getting over this issue in your sex life is a matter of training yourself. You need to look at yourself in the mirror, say you’re sexy and f*ck anyone who judges you for exploring your sexuality. Then, put down the fourth glass of champagne and get out there and get lucky!

We know it’s not as easy as that. We have our past to thank for that: Years of cultural mores make it difficult for women to shed the idea that casual sex is somehow “slutty” or devaluing, and the media puts so much emphasis on the “perfect beach body” that average, everyday women have a level of self-consciousness that only a mid-puberty tween should have. On top of that, patriarchal societal norms from the 50s still make women feel that GUYS should make the first move, though most men say they would be totally turned on by a woman who took charge.

So skip the extra drinks, ladies. With too much alcohol you’re more prone to making bad decisions or regretting your hook up the next day, and guilt is a much worse feeling accompanied by a hangover. Plus, if you’re really body conscious, you shouldn’t be chugging margaritas… ifyaknowwhatImean.

We’re not saying to not have a drink before you go out. Just know that too much to drink just to feel comfortable enough to get some isn’t the answer – it will only lead to regrets, bad decisions, and potentially unsafe situations.

 

Now go out there and GET SOME!