While we’re in the business of casual dating, we certainly don’t believe it’s IMPOSSIBLE for long term relationships to foster exciting, steamy sex lives. You just gotta keep tit fresh! Over on BuzzFeed, some sex-perts chimed in with the habits of couples who maintain active, satisfying sex lives long into their relationships. Here they are!

1. They let themselves get excited together, even when sex isn’t on the menu.

“Savoring the slow buildup ? drawing it out or teasing each other when you’re out in public and can’t do anything sexually explicit ? is a trait that most couples with hot sex lives share, said New York City sex therapist Stephen Snyder, the author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship.”

2. Every year, they get a little bit dirtier.

“Couples with hot sex lives are always upping the ante in the bedroom. Whether it’s grapefruiting or trying some next-level sex position, they seek out the new and unexplored, said Celeste Hirschman, a sex therapist who wrote Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple’s Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion with her business partner, Danielle Harel.

“One couple we worked with said, ‘Every year, we just got a little bit more dirty,’ and that really captures it,’” Hirschman said.”

3. They take care of themselves. 

“Couples with hot sex lives understand that feeling confident bolsters their sex drive. That doesn’t mean that they’re hitting Spin class every day and have zero body fat. The kind of confidence and inherent sexiness they possess is more full-bodied and holistic than that, said Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of the Passion Project: A Couples’ Blueprint to Rediscovering Desire and Reigniting the Spark.

“Phenomenal sex isn’t just about your relationship with your partner. It’s also about your relationship with yourself,” she said.”

4. They laugh in and outside the bedroom.

“Sex isn’t always sultry, seductive or hot. Silly things happen when two bodies slap against each other, not to mention funny noises. When awkward moments arise, couples with great sex lives take it in stride and laugh about it, said Kimberly Resnick Anderson, a sex therapist and an assistant professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine.

“Humor is a great aphrodisiac,” she said.”

5. They masturbate during sex. 

“Here’s a dirty little secret about relationship sex: Masturbating is much more fun when you’re not doing it alone. Plus, in the process, your partner gets a master class on the most reliable ways to please you, said Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and sex therapist in Los Angeles.

6. They explore each other’s fantasies. 

“In the words of sex columnist Dan Savage, the best sex partners are “good, giving and game.” In other words, they’re skilled in bed (thanks to a lot of practice), they’re generous, and they’re willing to try out whatever their partner’s into, within reason.

The three G’s are especially important in long-term, committed relationships, in which things can easily become stagnant in the bedroom, said Hirschman.

“Long-term couples with hot sex lives know that each person has their own unique erotic imagination,” she said.”

7. They kiss and touch throughout the day, just to show they care.

“A playful pinch on the butt or kiss before work matters more than you think. Putting a premium on non-sexy-time touch is a great way to remind your partner that you’re content and still very much attracted to him or her, Chavez said. “