One of the biggest facets of online dating that we emphasize at OBC is that it’s a platform to meet people, but the END GAME is to meet in person, sooner rather than later. If you just want to chat, there are chat rooms for that – but when it comes to online dating, the site should just be a venue to meet new people, and then take into the real world!

Need another reason to not drag out the online part of online dating? Check out this horror story via Metro:

The 24-year-old explained how he opened up an NSFW (not safe for work) account on X, formerly Twitter, during the Covid-19 lockdowns to keep him entertained. He said on Reddit : “I wanted this to be separate from my real life so I never planned on showing my face which seemed pretty reasonable at the time. After a week or so of posting and flirting with various accounts, I got added to a group chat with about 12 other people.

“The group chat was basically just a place where we all sent nudes back and forth and asked each other for opinions etc. It was pretty fun, to be honest, and I can’t lie having a basically anonymous group of people praising your body daily is pretty nice.” After sharing numerous explicit pictures of himself, he received a direct message from one of the members of the group, named Bella.

After several years of exchanging photos, the bomb dropped. 

He said: “My parents decided to rent an RV, picking up me and my siblings on the way [to Niagara Falls] since we’d all moved out of our home town/state. I was first on the list and after they picked me up we headed to my sister, Sara’s, 23, house to pick her up. It was going to be about three hours before we got there so I decided to go in the back and scroll Twitter.

“I opened a message from Bella where she let me know she was going on a vacation and might not have good service during the drive. I thought this was perfect timing since I was also going to be without service at some points during the trip so I let her know the same. We exchanged a fair amount of nudes to keep each other busy while we were unavailable and I closed my eyes and decided to nap the rest of the way.”

When they reached his sister’s house, he asked whether he could pop inside to use the bathroom before continuing their journey – and without hesitation, she let him in. He said: “We went inside and after the greetings were all out of the way I had to use the bathroom. When I walked into the bathroom, I couldn’t believe it. I had seen this bathroom before. So many times in fact it felt like I had been there before but that couldn’t be possible.

“I tried to convince myself it was just a coincidence but I decided to check back in my photos to see if my suspicions were true. Turns out yes, they were. I knew this bathroom because I had seen it before. I had hundreds of pictures with the same shower curtain and hand towels in the background. I still couldn’t bring myself to believe that the nudes I had been lusting after were my sister so when I came back out I asked her if she had a roommate.

“That’s definitely what’s happening here, I’m sexting my sister’s roommate. But she said no, she lives alone.” He says his “blood went cold” and he didn’t know what to think. Freaked out, and now back in the RV, he decided to doublecheck Bella’s bathroom against his sisters – now hesitant about reopening the explicit pictures in his inbox.

“I know I shouldn’t have gone back to her account but I had to know. Except I didn’t have to, because when I went to our messages there was a new picture waiting for me. I hesitated before opening it and to my surprise it was a photo of her completely naked in her bunk on the RV. I was glad I told her about my trip because I couldn’t respond. I could barely move it didn’t feel real.”

Yep. This guy had been sexting and sending nudes with his OWN SISTER.

Barf, barf, BARF!

Unsure how to handle the situation, he blocked Bella and decided to never speak a word of this to his sister. He said: “I still use the Twitter account but no longer am very active in group chats, it’s been a few months and I still don’t think I’m going to tell her. I’m already traumatised enough, she doesn’t deserve to feel that as well.”