We’ve all had an accidental drunken hook up with a friend. Sometimes it goes great, sometimes it ends horribly, sometimes you pretend it never happened and cease eye contact for the rest of your friendship. It just depends.

What if you want to hook up with a friend ON PURPOSE? In that case, there are some ways to prevent the terribly-ending, no-eye-contact-ever-again friend-hookup, though, and OBC has enough experience to know that there are 3 keys to a successful friend hook up.

Make sure the friend is single

Even if you have the sexual tension of two cats in heat, don’t go after a friend who is in a relationship. Maybe they’ve expressed dissatisfaction with their SO, but it’s not your place to try and break up the relationship. If something goes wrong, you guys hook up, and they regret ending it with their boy or girlfriend, they’ll always blame you for it. It’ll be no good for anyone. On the other hand, keep your ear to the ground. If they DO break up, you’ll be there to be a crying (totally naked) shoulder.

Create a verbal contract

It’s important to set some ground rules for the hook up. Of course, some rules will always be broken, but ensure at the beginning that whether you hook up once or decide to keep it going that you’ll always remain friends. You guys were friends first and you don’t want to lose a friend over one silly booty call. Furthermore, you might try and keep it a secret from the rest of your friends or you may be open about it, but you two should DEFINITELY agree on this point either way.

Don’t make it awkward

Once it’s happened, it’s happened. There’s no going back. So don’t make your non-sexual time together some weird, uncomfortable, awkward “thing”. Like you said in your verbal contract, you’re first and foremost friends, and sex shouldn’t have to change anything about that. Sure you know what the other person looks like naked, but other than that they’re still the silly weirdo you’ve always known. Treat them as such.

Those our our top 3 tips for hooking up with a friend… what are yours? Do you have any success (or failure) stories?

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