Yesterday, we talked about the sad news that many men and women in relationships aren’t having sex cause they want to, but instead only because they feel “guilty” or don’t want to “get in a fight.” BOO! Terrible! The thought of someone lugging themselves into bed with this face because they’d rather be watching Grey’s Anatomy makes us super bummed out, so we figured we’d share OBC’s top 5 tips for getting yourself in the mood when you’re just feeling EH. But of course, because it’s Friday, we have to remind you that if you’re single, these tips will ALSO help you win a MILLION BUCKS, because they’ll make you want to log in to OBC and thus enter yourself in the Million Dollar Sweepstakes! WIN-WIN situation!

1. Make your outside look like you want to FEEL

This is our TOP tip, because we so often see people who say they have a low sex drive but DUH, it’s because they’re looking schlubby and bored! You don’t have to be Gisele herself to look amazing – just put on whatever it in your closet that makes you feel the hottest! If you’re a lady, this might mean some sexy lingerie under your clothes, or those heels that you haven’t busted out since Vegas 2008. Dudes, this might mean hitting the mall and getting yourself something that doesn’t have HOLES in it. When you feel extra attractive, you’re going to WANT attention. It’s just the way it is.

2. Set the mood

Whether it’s candles and jazz music or just dimmed lights and a little Ghostwriter (my go-to sexy song!), make your home feel like a sultry, delicious hook up locale. Oh, and for the love of God CLEAN UP. Vacuum, spray a little bit of a nice scent, and wash the damn dishes. Of course you’re not horny, IT SMELLS LIKE WEEK OLD CHICKEN IN HERE.

3. Watch your favorite mood-setting movie

WE’RE NOT TALKING ABOUT PORN. Maybe there’s a movie with a star that gets you hot and bothered. For some of the ladies, this might be The Notebook. For guys, it might be Wild Things (holy shit that movie is almost 15 years old). Make it a movie that gets you a little tingly south of the border – but not one that just straight up make you pull it out. You want to savor that energy for your partner!

4. Get your sexy texting on

Surprise your sexy partner-in-crime by jump-starting a little naughty text-a-thon. Maybe snap a few suggestive pictures and ask if they’d like to see. Or remind them of a particularly sexy memory you have of you two and ask if they want to reenact it. With any luck you’ll both be so excited when you see each other that you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other!

5. Two words: ROLE. PLAY.

It’s hard to keep up the spark when you know a person like the back of your hand. So become someone they DON’T know. Meet up at a bar and pretend you don’t know each other. Flirt like you would have back when you first met. Take on a new name and new back-story. Rent a hotel room and do it like teenagers. Do whatever it takes to remind yourself why you were so turned on by your mate when you first met. Sex in an incredibly important part of a relationship – make it count!

With any luck, these five steps will give you and your partner the jump-start you need to rekindle a sexual relationship that makes you BOTH enjoy sex, instead of one just doing it for the other. As we learned yesterday, sexual experiences where both parties are sexually aroused, interested, AND satisfied is key for a healthy relationship.

This weekend, GET IT ON like you used to. Oh, and if you’re single – you can do all these things, and then meet up with someone on OBC. Remember, it might help you win a MILLION DOLLARS!

Happy weekend!