As you reenter the dating world and start sparking up sexual relationships, you may be diving into SEXTING again! Sending nude sexts can be a fun, steamy way to remind your booty call what you’d like to share with them once you take your dating from the virtual world to the real world. However, an unsolicited dick pic is A) totally gross, B) borderline harassment, and C) a great way to end up getting your penis shared with several other women, if she’s feeling vindictive.

Furthermore, as one expert says,

“Being turned on purely by visual stimuli is more commonly effective for cisgendered men, but cisgendered women tend to be more responsive to a story or descriptor ? especially those specific to them ? because it activates them emotionally, which is a huge component of female arousal.”

She added, “Speaking from a heteronormative perspective, I believe dick pics are never the best option for getting her fired up.”

Below, women share the sexts they’d rather receive than another unrequested photo of someone’s dong. Dick-pic-happy men out there, please bookmark this.

We love these spicy ideas from HuffPo to use WORDS to spark the imagination of your partner without the need to set your Brett Favre yourself.

Talk about the, er, effect your partner has on you.

“‘I was just dreaming about you and now my pants are much tighter all of a sudden.’ You’re describing to your partner how you are turning them on and what you are experiencing.” ? Heather McPherson, a couple’s therapist and sex therapist in Austin and Denver

Describe a hot moment you shared.

“Send your partner a text reminiscing about one of your favorite sexual memories together. Something like, ‘Remember that trip we took to Mexico? And what we did out on the balcony of that one hotel? I can’t stop thinking about that.’ Referring back to past experiences is great because you don’t have to come up with something creative in the moment. You’re just drawing from your own memories! Plus, they’re good memories that should get both of you fired up. You could even do something simpler, like, ‘I’ve been thinking about last Wednesday night all day long today.’” ? Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and online course creator

Give a command.

“When I get a sext from a dude, I’m turned off by phrases that start with ‘I want you’ or ‘I need you.’ I don’t want neediness. I want a command that asks for a response, something that’s not too aggressive off the top, that invites my own imagination to engage: Maybe ‘Wear a skirt’ or ‘Tell me what you think about when you touch yourself.’ And when the message is that my pleasure is the focus right off the top, bam, wet.” ? Bryde MacLean, co-host and co-producer of the podcast “Turn Me On”

Tell your partner what you’re going to do and how you’re going to do it.

“Here’s the thing about sexting: suggestive is hot, obvious is not. It’s easy to send a dick pic or to throw the F-word around. That’s exactly what makes it a whole lot less sexy than creating a scene that requires the receiver to fill in all the blanks. Say something like, ‘I can’t stop thinking about your hands. About the way my body feels when they’re on me. About the things they do to me. About how electric my skin feels when they glide across it. Tonight I’m in your hands. Completely.’” ? Jenny Block, writer and author of “Be That Unicorn: Find Your Magic, Live Your Truth, and Share Your Shine”

Take a mundane moment at work and make it sexy.

“Say, ‘I’m stuck in this meeting and all I can think about is you bending me over the kitchen table later.’ Sexting is basically a digital form of foreplay. You’re letting your partner know that you’re thinking about having sex with them while you’re at your day job. This text will give your partner something to think about for the rest of the day. And when you get home, you’ll probably get bent over the kitchen table.” ? Gigi Engle, certified sex coach, sexologist, and author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life”